Can you and your loved ones answer these questions? 1. On a scale of 1 to 5, where do you fall on this continuum: 1 = Let me die without medical intervention; 5 = Don’t give up on me no matter what, try any proven and unproven intervention possible. 2. If there were a choice, […]
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Elegy for A. and M.
I grew up rich in cousins. I spent holidays with my first cousins and lived, starting at age 11, in the same town with second cousins (the children of my mother’s first cousin) AND a first cousin twice removed (my grandmother’s first cousin – each generation that separates us is the “removed” part). Don’t worry, […]
Public Q&A: COVID19 precautions and care
As a trusted node on my friends’ “nerd network” (i.e., the people who are known to dig in and research everything so others may not have to) I have been asked a few questions that I’d like to share, in the hopes that other people can add their own perspectives — and new questions! Question: […]
Project management for caregivers
I am a caregiver. I help coordinate the health and home care for an elder loved one who, for the purposes of maintaining a bit of anonymity, I will call “M.” He is a healthy, happy octogenarian. We have known each other for nearly 40 years, but we are not related by blood. I am […]
A good death
You might think, looking at the open tabs on my browser, that I’ve got death on my mind. And you would be right. My father passed away in December from melanoma. The end was about as peaceful as we could have hoped for, but it was still hard to watch. I spent most of what […]
Beyond one more search, one more prayer
I had lunch today with Mona Hanford, who shared her vision for helping people navigate to the end of life, based on her own experience as a caregiver for her husband. Our conversation led us to the observation that caregivers often feel like they have to keep fighting on behalf of their loved one. If […]
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